The Pupose of Girlfriends

Women are complicated, emotional beings. It is because of this that I believe women NEED girlfriends in their lives. Girlfriends provide for each other something special that other relationships can't fulfill. We understand one another, even if we don't always agree with what one is saying or doing. True girlfriends love you and support you even with all your junk. A true girlfriend will call you out, and make you question why you are doing what you are doing. True girlfriends will drop everything and be there when you need them. they are someone you can call anytime and will listen when you need them.  And of course key to this is that it is reciprocated. But True friends don't keep a scorecard. It is like the greatest Bank Account, you make deposits and withdrawals on the account and it all just seems to balance in the end.

I am truly blessed to have some great girlfriends in my life. They have been there for my ups and downs, highs and lows, good times and bad. They are not judgy and only offer advice and their thoughts on issues when it is needed. I can call my girls ( and yes, I do take ownership of these girls in my life, because it is the type of bond that I have), and they are there at the drop of a dime. Sometimes I just need an ear on the phone line. There are times that I need to see them for a break.

My husband gets this relationship I have, he may not understand it, but he allows me time to have my "Girls Nights". He will take the kids away or watches the kids as I go out for coffee or wine with my friends. HE knows that without these girls I wouldn't be who I am, or have the strength to get through all the things I have gotten through. To quote Tom Cruise "They complete me." They may not always be the same group of friends, but God has introduced me to certain people in my life at certain times for certain reasons, and once that need is filled friends have moved on. I still love ALL the girls who have come in and out of my life, and they hold a special place in my heart.

I also must admit that I am HIGH maintenance as a friend. I don't know if this is because I am an only child, and have always relied on my friends in substitute for a sibling, but my friends carry a heavy load when they enter my life. I want to put it out there that I know this and appreciate the responsibility that is "Being Kristen's friend".